We really struggle with the sleep routine here. I've lost track on when it all started going wrong. But I know it's been a while. I openly admit my method of getting the boys to sleep could be to blame. I did the same with Angus, as I'm doing with Felix. Cuddling and comforting until he drifts off, then transferring him to the cot. Most nights it works and everyone is happy. Not last night. Last night the bedtime routine very nearly broke me. And after one hour and forty minutes of nursing a wriggly, wide awake Felix on my lap, I cracked. I lugged him up the stairs, plonked him in his cot and walked out.
Then the deluge of mama guilt began. Listening to him scream was THE worst. I hated it. I couldn't concentrate or even continue doing anything else. So I listened. And fretted. After fifteen whole minutes of wailing, he was silent. The guilt kicked in further. For the next three hours until my bedtime, I checked on him (slumbering soundly) no less than six times. And in the end, slept in the single bed right next to his cot, for the night. There are days when I really think I'm not cut out for this Mama gig at all. Nothing particularly major needs to happen, but a bad sleep or bedtime episode always brings me down.
Then today, we attended a birthday party for a little friend of Angus' from preschool. Such an interesting experience meeting a whole bunch of new Mama's and children. A lovely old-fashioned home party, with lovely families. And I couldn't have felt more at ease after my disastrous night, because miracle of miracles... they are all going through similar trials at home with their young ones. Ahh, what a relief! Almost complete strangers, with a fresh perspective, who completely understood every word I spoke. I came out of that party brimming with positivity and it felt amazing. And the boys had a blast too!
Lunch & a play at Bondi Beach yesterday